With the election just around the corner, many people are feeling unsettled and stressed. They may be intimidated and scared as they struggle to sit with uncertainty for the future, said Megan Fernandes, a clinical counselor at the University of Illinois Counseling Center.
“It’s easier for folks to isolate and get lost in these spiraling anxious thoughts of what could happen, what’s the worst that could happen, and it can get isolating and lonely for people,” she said.
It’s very human to want to avoid things that are uncomfortable and put up defense mechanisms, she added. These are protective mechanisms against threatening situations.
But she advises against this. Instead, Fernandes encourages people to cultivate the skills of reaching out and learning to lean on others, in an effort to overcome isolation and anxiety.
When it comes to advice for managing stress during election season, Fernandes has the following tips: First, validate your feelings by allowing yourself to feel what you feel and find safety and support within your community.
Second, recognize what’s within and beyond your control — and set boundaries. Many people tend to feel helpless during the lead-up to the election, doubting whether casting their ballot will make a difference. While the uncertainty of what lies ahead is unsettling, the results are beyond any individual’s control.
Lastly, when speaking to others, Fernandes recommended using “I” statements — focused on expressing what it is that you’re thinking and feeling.
“When you speak with ‘I’ statements and you talk about how you’re feeling, it’s more centered to you,” Fernandes said. “You’ll probably be met with less defensiveness when you use ‘I’ statements versus when you are attacking someone for their beliefs.”
During this stressful time, reaching out for social support is crucial.
“I keep getting the sense that everybody is thinking like, ‘Oh, I’m in this all by myself and no one fully understands,’” Fernandes said. “Well, help people understand. Reach out and talk about it.”
She encourages U of I students in need of help to reach out to the Counseling Center.